Today I have some good news for you. Ready? 

There is nowhere to get to, you can't do this thing called life wrong and everything is ok. Oh and peace with food and your body is entirely possible!

How does that feel? Do you believe it? 

Is your perfectionist self rising up and saying - "Oh come on - you can totally do this wrong!" Or is your fear rising up and saying - “What? How can you possibly say everything is ok, have you seen the world!!!” Or maybe you are thinking, “I’ve spent decades dieting, there is no way I can ever let that go.”

I get it. And yet, I'm reading a book right now called The Gift, 12 Lessons to Save Your Life - by Edith Eger, the same woman who wrote The Choice. I highly recommend both books. Edith learned how to choose joy under the most unimaginable circumstances possible; as a prisoner in Auschwitz.

In the book, she says, "the worst prison is not the one the Nazi's put me in. The worst prison is the one I built for myself."

Can you relate? I sure can.

Now for the good news!

There is a way out. There is a way to leave obsessive thoughts about food and body behind. There is a way to find health and heal and be at peace.

There is a way to find more joy, love, and acceptance.

There is a way to go beyond fear as a way of being have what it is you want in your life - no matter what that is.

There is a way to learn to have gratitude and appreciation and respect for your body - no matter what it looks like. AND there is a way to love what it looks like.

You have known this all along. The only reason we keep dieting for decades is that something doesn't feel right and we know there must be a way to feel better. Our souls know that there is untapped potential waiting to be expressed.

And there is - it's just not going to reveal itself through the diet process and has very little if anything to do with food.

Being at peace with our bodies, feeling alive and vibrant and full of joy comes from an entirely different kind of journey than the one we thought we were supposed to take.

People are catching on to this - the world is waking up. You can't hate yourself into a better way of being. You can't solve a problem from the same level of emotion that created it (as famously stated by Einstein.)

As for getting “there” or being done, I find that when I work with clients, they enter the experience thinking that everything will be different in the end. 

They will be totally done and can check the work off the list.  

Learned how to love my body - check.

Stopped judging myself - check.

Learned how to feed myself - check. 

This work IS all about learning how to love your body, stop judging, and learning how to feed yourself, but it is a practice you will be honing and refining every day for the rest of your life.  As Edith says, “Freedom is a lifetime practice - a choice we get to make again and again each day.”

Your relationship with your body is going to be with you until you no longer reside in a physical body. 

And life is not going to stop with its daily stresses and aging and changes.  The world is always changing and expanding. 

So what we do with our bodies is often going to change.

The idea is that when we stop feeling like we need to do things a certain way each day or need to get to a certain place, we can actually slow down and take the time to ask - am I enjoying today? 

What I have right now in front of me is today. Am I just trying to get through it, or am I actually present? 

Am I feeling like I'm not doing Intuitive Eating right? Am I worried that I will never be at peace? 

We end up getting lost in our heads and our to-do lists and our shoulds and have to's, which also leads us back to turn to food for comfort or entertainment when there is no comfort or entertainment present in our lives.  

 Anything you want to change in your relationship with food (or anything else) can be changed, and peace and freedom are possible. But there is no hurry and it's going to take as long as it takes. 

All you need to do is make sure you are enjoying the ride. 

What am I enjoying lately? Walks with my husband, the feel of the warm sun on a cold day, time to myself when my kids are in school, the fall flavors of chai and pumpkin and chili, practicing presence and losing myself in the creative process in order to share more of my work. 

And my husband and I have been giggling over Schitt's Creek on Netflix lately. Humor is one of the best ways to connect with self and be present in the moment. 

What would happen if you believed that peace with food was possible?

If this sounds like something you or someone you love would like to explore, there are many ways to get in touch with me.

You can book a free consult and go into my private 1-1 coaching program, or you can sign up for a 90-minute breakthrough session where we identify how you got to where you are and where it is you want to go.

You can also sign up for a limited holiday FREE weekly group call on Tuesdays at 7 pm EST (the group for Tuesday, Nov. 10 is already filling up. Feel free to also reserve a spot in future Tuesdays by sending me an email.)

You can also sign up for a special holiday FREE one-hour discovery session if you would like some direction and feedback on your journey. These sessions are limited so if it interests you - please sign up soon. Once they start to fill up I will be taking down the link for that offer.

Peace is possible. Peace is a choice.

I look forward to supporting you on your path to peace.

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