I Would Do Anything For Love....But I Won't Do That
/Do I have any Meatloaf fans out there? Not the food, but the band!
If so, you might recognize the title of this blog as one of their songs. It's been playing in my head as I sift and sort through the stories I hear about women and their bodies.
It's rather stunning what emerges.
We will limit the amount of food we put into our bodies, but we won't limit the negative thoughts in our minds.
We will carve up our internal organs, but we won’t carve out time for self-care.
We will inject ourselves with hormones but reject self-love.
We will take medications that make us ill but don't do the breathwork that makes us well.
We will go to hypnosis, but have trouble with meditation.
We will spend hundreds of dollars on weight loss, but we won’t spend it on a night away for ourselves.
We will shame and blame ourselves with ease but have difficulty with kind words.
We will restrict time for play, but not restrict the number of items on our to-do list.
We will spend hours in punishing exercise but can't take 20 minutes for a nap.
We will track calories but have trouble listing what we are grateful for or what we like about ourselves.
We will readily list everything going wrong and not even notice the millions of things currently going right in our bodies right now.
We don't have an obesity crisis, we have a compassion crisis.
If you recognize yourself here - that's ok, it's not your fault. We have been trained and conditioned to try and change the size of our bodies and our weight at all costs.
The message gets rooted so early for most of us that we never even get the chance to stop and consider what it is we are doing and why.
It becomes automatic. If the scale does not show what it's supposed to, then we will keep working to fix the problem.
But the problem has never been your body. Your body knows exactly how to take care of itself when you take care of your soul.
And there is the missing link. We have been taught to sell our souls to the devil and trained to give away our power.
We don't need to reduce our calories, we need to reconnect our life-force energy.
Your body will actually respond when you are in your joy. When you find ease. When you let go of resistance. When you choose love over fear. When you cut yourself some slack and give yourself a break.
We've had it wrong for so long. More hustle does not bring us what we want. What we want comes from more flow.
There is no doubt that every one of you is strong, capable, hardworking, and relentless. You have proved this over and over. We have just been focusing on the wrong cause.
I wonder what would happen if we could take all of the time, energy, and attention that we concentrate on judging our bodies and direct it toward self-appreciation?
Think of the suffering that would end. Think of the energy that would save. Think of how that would raise the frequency of the planet.
The results would be miraculous.
And you can start enjoying miracles in your own life right now when you take your attention away from judgment and put it upon joy.
What are you doing over and over that feels like it takes enormous effort?
What blocks are you unwittingly putting in your own path?
What can you start to let go of today?
What kind words do you have for yourself today?
If you would do anything for love, would you at least do that?